SATURDAY'S WITH STEF: Why I was DATELESS for so long

12:00 AM


I haven't been in a relationship since 2011. It wasn't until the end of 2013 I started dating. 

I took time after my break-up to find me.

I spent so much time loving a man who didn't love me, that I found out, HELL! I didn't even love me!

I don't regret my decision. Some of you have been following my journey via my ex blog "Curvaceous in the City" and know how IMPORTANT it was for me to be on my own, man-free, worry-free. 

Sure I lost weight, but that was only half of my journey. The other half was becoming a woman. Finding out what I want, what I don't want. Shoot! Even till this day I have no clue what I want, I just know what I DON'T want.

I became ME. I am so proud of the struggle. It was a lot of re-evaluating my life, the people in it and at the end of the day, making cuts so my world can be a better world for the better me.

I didn't change. I just grew up. The doormat I once was, isn't a doormat. Like I said, I have a voice. Dating is so much fun now. I'm at a point where I'm older, wiser, and GROWN that I am ME on a date. I say and do things from my heart and just sits back to see what happens.

Point of this post is, I am so happy I made the decision to stay single for so long. It made me a good woman for the next man.


1 comment:

Big Mark 243 said...

...as one of those readers from the "Curvaceous" days, I am in awe of your transformation... you have truly matured, grown to love and appreciate yourself, and smart enough to know what you are worth..! I am so happy for you Stef..!

Love & Rockets!
Mark