Saturday's with Stef: It Starts with Friendship

12:00 AM


I decided to not speak about who I am dating when it comes to my website/ For HIS privacy, MY privacy, and OUR privacy.

However, there is no one I am dating at the current moment...just gonna throw that out there. 

I recently had a lot of time to think about my ex. The damage he had done and how much I turned that negative into a positive. I owe a lot to him, believe it or not. Putting his feces in my mouth really was an all time low for me and to be honest, I refuse to let any other man make me feel that way ever again.

I know what I want and what I don't want out of a relationship. I have also learned a lot about me as a human being and as a woman.

Someone asked me though, "what do you really want out of a relationship Stef?" I simply want to grow old with my best friend. I'm not asking for a perfect relationship, in fact I am VERY aware that relationships take work and time, therefore I want someone who s gonna be willing to work at US. Someone who will always have my back, even when I am wrong. Someone who think I am just oh so beautiful and feel lucky to have me. Someone who wants to grow old with me, raise a family and celebrate anniversaries the cheesy way. Someone who when we are old, will laugh hysterically at the the one vacation from hell. Someone who will make me feel beautiful and inspire me in the most positive ways through out my life. I want my best friend. My soul mate.

I truly believe the best relationships come out of friendships. I also believe that FRIENDSHIP is the base for the relationship. Call me old fashioned, call me a dreamer, but I look forward to marrying my best friend.

I'm flying solo as of right now and that is fine by me. I am working on me. If a man wants to kiss me, so be it, but I am not gonna go chasing love. Love will come to me. It will be that light bulb that goes off in our heads and the start to something awesome. I just know it. 

Losing weight has made me feel so beautiful now. Not that I didn't feel that way before, but it makes me feel like I can do anything my heart desires and finish my goals. The ambition in me gets fired up and my wings spread...oh how I am ready to fly and meet whomever God wants me to be with. Working on me has taught me Self-Love. We all know you cant love someone else unless we love ourselves. And heaven knows, everyone doesn't have their shit together when it comes to a particular section of our lives...I am ready for that. Hell, I have my section, but it's about not seeing that knowing that it will get together and things fall into place.

I guess in all...

I cant wait to find my best friend.

Until then, I am my own best friend.



5 comments:

♥ CG ♥ said...

Hey mama! First....you are awesome! So awesome that I know there are women reading your posts who are growing as a result of your candidacy and authenticity. Second...you've come to feel free and comfortable in your womanhood which is something that eludes some, what a great thing it is to embrace it with confidence. Third...you rightfully deserve a love of your own, one who will cherish and honor you, a guy who is the apple of your eye and vice versa (he's near, believe me :-)). Fourth, I love ya! That's all ;-)

Roz @ weightingfor50 said...

LOVE this Stef. The man who you eventually let into your heart will be one LUCKY LUCKY man indeed!!!!! Hugs.

Marissa said...

Love this post. I have been dating my best friend for 4 years and you're right - the best relationships come from friendships. I wouldn't have it any other way. <3

WitchHazel said...

Being with your best friend is the best thing ever.. it may take a while to find it, but when you do it will be totally worth it ;) xox

Anonymous said...

This post really touched me. You're right, I too lost a lot of weight after a break up and the confidence I had was awesome. Good for you and keep it up!